Is this for real? Does Yahoo not understand that this is our safe haven?
if ur nice to people they call you fake. if ur mean or honest to people they tell u ur a bitch. if ur smart then ur nerdy and if ur dumb then ur not going anywhere in life. if u post selfies people think ur a camera whore and if u don’t post selfies everyone thinks ur too ugly for the camera. thERE IS NO WINNING IN HIGH SCHOOL
There’s no winning in life.
A little feminist rant is ahead. Beware.
Why is it that guys are only understanding and respectful of women’s wishes to not have sex right away if the woman reveals that she had a traumatic experience with a man in her past?
That sentence is probably a bit confusing so let me elaborate.
One of my friends has been dating (not in a relationship yet, just dating) this guy for about 2 months now. They met on Saint Patrick’s Day, while bar hopping. They didn’t even start to date until two weeks later. About three weeks of dating (only seeing each other maybe once a week due to her classes and his job), he started to get a little frisky and wanted to have sex. My friend said no. He got mad. They dropped the subject for a week. Then he tried to get frisky again. My friend said no, again. He got mad again. This time he explained that he didn’t understand why she didn’t trust him.
So then my friend felt pressured into telling him some very personal reasons why she wasn’t ready to jump in bed with him. She had a traumatic experience with several men who, though not related by blood, were a part of her family. So naturally, she has trust issues with men. She explained all of this to the guy she’s been dating for almost 2 months and he apparently is very understanding and respects her wishes now.
This isn’t the first time I have come across this. It has happened to many of my friends over the years, and with me as well.
But why did my friend have to reveal all of that just to get him to ease up on the pressure to have sex? Why can’t guys just accept that a woman does not want to have sex with them? Why is it only acceptable if she has had trauma in her past that was linked to a man? Why can’t guys just respect our choice to not have sex, especially if we don’t know the guy well enough and are not in a relationship with the guy?
About a month ago you asked if you could have a “circle mohawk” again. I told you to think about it because you’ve been growing your hair out for so long and I didn’t want you to regret it. On Sunday night I told you I had a hair appointment with Allison the next day. You asked if you could get your hair cut like that again, but you were laying down for bed and not supposed to be talking so I ignored you. The next day you asked twice, so I finally said I didn’t care and that you look beautiful whatever you decide. The last time your hair was like this you weren’t in school yet, I was so nervous about kids being cruel. I walked you to school on Tuesday morning and stayed awhile to make sure everything was going to go smoothly, which it did. When I picked you up you said, “Olivia liked my hair. She said she didn’t want her hair like this, but she liked mine like this. And we’re still friends. That’ just like how I don’t want to have purple hair like Allison, but I love Allison’s purple hair. You don’t have to have all the same stuff as your friends.” Wise beyond your years, baby child. I’m so proud of you and how you have the courage to be exactly who you want to be, despite any other outside influences. While we’re on the topic of gender, when I was at parent teacher conferences a few months ago a mom of this little boy approached me. She told me how he wanted to paint his nails and go to school. She let him. When he came home he said, “Scarlet loved my nails, Mom!” I’ve never been so proud.
THESE ALWAYS MAKE ME CRY